Lately there have been unexpected family crises—nothing that couldn’t be solved, mind you, but challenges for sure that involved money (or the lack thereof). As such, when problems arrive—some large and some small—I tend first to panic, then my heart sinks a little, sometimes I cry, and often I can feel myself plummet to a dark land in which I would prefer not to dwell.
Joan Erikson, my mentor, deplored such situations preferring as she would say to remain in the muck as little a time as possible.
Fortunately she left behind her now famous Life Cycle chart which is becoming a more than practical guide in times of trouble. Based on the fact that we actually grow from adversity and conflict I glanced at the first four challenges to overcome on her list of eight.
So I tried to see if I could, on top of my impending doom, apply her principles:
How could I trust myself in this present situation? The identify and cling to a small piece of my autonomy principle? If I did that, I would begin to use my innate initiative and become industrious in the process. Taking such action would give me hope, will, new purpose, and a sense of competence.
Voila! I crawled out of the fit and got my power back. Of course I would have to go through the same process the next time panic hits but now at least it would not stop me in my tracks but propel me (and others) as well.
Thank you Joanie for a “cure” you and your husband designed for all of us years ago.